Im now 40 and through luck rather than good looks I always managed to date nice girls ,anyway to the point when I was 19 and I dumped this girl who was really pretty but loved up with me and I never understood at the time why as I was a lout ,and I also felt like I couldnt breath so I ended it and this was in the chelsea area of london where I grew up ,Anyway was in Norfolk yesterday at a family doo and 21 years later,when in walks a cousin with his girlfreind , I get tapped on the shoulder by his girlfreind saying dont say hello then ,my mouth fell open she was drop dead quality lookin a bit liz hurley like ,it took me about 20 seconds to work out exactly who the heck she was,She must have been a size 8 and looked 25 rather than 39 and driving a XK8 and theres me a phil mitchell lookalike in an escort ,Gutted if only I knew

Edited December 9, 200717 yr by 1pukkadeal

i've never dumped anyone, but been dumped by 2 girls i woulda liked to have stayed with a bit,

 

 

if only u were'nt a lout eh, but u never know,she may be intollerable as a long term GF/wife

i've never dumped anyone, but been dumped by 2 girls i woulda liked to have stayed with a bit,

 

 

if only u were'nt a lout eh, but u never know,she may be intollerable as a long term GF/wife

 

 

I know mate ,back then My car my mates and football all came before any relationship ,funny how your prioritys change when your older ,I found this pic of her when she was 18

 

http://www.evo-host.co.uk/getimg/7503.jpg

I regret dumping someone but not for the same reasons as yourself.....

 

I was 19 and a unashamable flirt, while trying not to sound like Im bragging here(Im actually a tad shamed tbh) I had absolutly no problem whatsoever getting any woman a cared to have, be it rich, poor, smart, dumb...it didnt really matter

 

anyway....I started seeing this girl of 25 years old, very pretty, self sufficient, smart and strong willed who had a baby son from her previous long term relationship(something that had gave me a moment of pause when Id first found her attractive...shallow I know), we had a sorta on off nothing serious thing going for a fair while(you know the kind of thing, fcuk buddys who care for each other). Till date I hadnt considered settling down to be an option as like I said I had more than my fair share of choices but something about her made me think I might be able too, we laffed, chatted, got on great, her baby adhored me and tbh it was entirely mutual(you have no idea how odd that seemed to me at that time).

 

wether it was my heistation toward commitment or her own desire to experience the things she'd missed out on during her previous blokes tyranny or maybe a combination of the both who knows but long story short we went our seperate ways.... Ill not regret the parting as it led me to find the person who Id subsequently fall madly in love with and start a family with (thats my missus btw) but roughly 10 years on just last year a freind mentioned that he had seen the woman back in the area, having moved on I was disinterested.... until I bumped into her myself at the local shop.

 

Her once stunning looks and personality were near totally faded, not from the time of 10 years thatd had passed though, we got talking (old times and that) and I bought her a drink at the pub next door to the shop (Purely as a freindly jesture, no other motive), while we sat there she told me about how her life had gone after we went our own ways.........from heavy cocaine addiction to abusive violent spouses to self harming and suicide attempts, it all just came flooding out, I have no shame in saying I honestly cried while she told me all the awful things that had gone on.

 

my missus noted my obvious upset state when I got home later and I explained everything to her being careful to respect the privacy of the other womans life as I did so.....she just hugged me and told me how I couldnt blame myself for it as it wasnt my fault....I hadnt even realised why It upset me so much, I did blame myself for it in some twisted way(still do in small part), cant help thinking that somewhere along the way, while I was in her life, I could have done something different,changed something that would have made it possible for her to avoid the terrible things that happened to her.

 

Its hard not to look at yourself with cold dislike when you see someone your remember being so amazing, that shone so brightly turned into a beaten and battered wreck when you think that you could have made her life so much better if you hadnt been a completely selfish self centred shallow cock drop like I had been back then

Its hard not to look at yourself with cold dislike when you see someone your remember being so amazing, that shone so brightly turned into a beaten and battered wreck when you think that you could have made her life so much better if you hadnt been a completely selfish self centred shallow cock drop like I had been back then

 

 

Its easy for us to think what if, I do like your wording mate as its nice to see that from a blokes points of view ,Just took me by surprise meeting her again thats all ,at least she done well and moved on ,I feel better for having known her and being able to reflect like this on the past and seeing 20 years ago I was no more than a football factory type thug ,I am nothing like that now ,I helped run a martial arts club for past 8 years teaching ju jitsu and I have a lot to do with the police now too and on the right side of the law now in my older life

Edited December 9, 200717 yr by 1pukkadeal

erm.......... Id like to add(after re-reading my previous post)

 

I drank my drink out of a broken glass and it was battery acid cos Im really a very ard macho bloke....

 

 

and erm.....I had dust in my eyes.....they was watering....IM TO ARD TO CRY(puffs out chest)

erm.......... Id like to add(after re-reading my previous post)

 

I drank my drink out of a broken glass and it was battery acid cos Im really a very ard macho bloke....

 

 

and erm.....I had dust in my eyes.....they was watering....IM TO ARD TO CRY(puffs out chest)

 

 

Too late to retract it now its been said ,good on ya at least you know your own mistakes in your case , the same as I do in my own too

Edited December 9, 200717 yr by 1pukkadeal

oooooh fcuk yes.

surely if you regret dumping someone etc, then what does that say for the relationship your in now.

 

for example lee, your married with a child, by saying you regret dumping someone in the past then you wouldnt be where you are now etc?????

 

i dont understand it unless your single now

surely if you regret dumping someone etc, then what does that say for the relationship your in now.

 

for example lee, your married with a child, by saying you regret dumping someone in the past then you wouldnt be where you are now etc?????

 

i dont understand it unless your single now

 

 

past regrets that all katie ,we all have them about this or that or them ,all part of growing up and moving on thats all

Edited December 9, 200717 yr by 1pukkadeal

I can honestly say no, and to add some soppyness if that's a word, I'm as loved up with my wife today as I was 12 years ago!

I can honestly say no, and to add some soppyness if that's a word, I'm as loved up with my wife today as I was 12 years ago!

 

 

Good for you

reminisce maybe but regrets no.

oh and ric that was really sweet.

surely if you regret dumping someone etc, then what does that say for the relationship your in now.

 

for example lee, your married with a child, by saying you regret dumping someone in the past then you wouldnt be where you are now etc?????

 

i dont understand it unless your single now

i think lee is refering to the pic

http://www.evo-host.co.uk/getimg/7503.jpg

Goth!